So something interesting happened recently. My friend told me about his friend's girlfriend. He told me that this woman was 42 years old and still a virgin. I was stunned and yet at the same time strangely encouraged..?! I say this because out situations are not the same yet the outcome is similar. Knowing that someone like that was encouraging because she said no to temptation. I thought to myself, wouldn't be awesome if I could interview this woman for all of her tricks and how she avoided all of that temptation really is amazing to me. However, the bad thing is she is 42 and childless. (She wants children). So is being a virgin and waiting for the right one really the thing to do if this is the result? I know she can adopt but that not wants she wants. I am still doing quite well in my celibacy and half way to being truly celibate with 3 months to go. I am sure I can make it. I mean if someone is 42 and a virgin I can surely make it 90 days right. I somewhat do not even really have a choice because I have a crazy A&P class that is going to be hell on earth. I don't think I will be able to even spare any time to even have sex which is a good thing. We shall see.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Hello out there people. I am coming up on 90 days tomorrow Yay! It has been a hard journey. I am still seeing the same person. He still gives me pecks. At first I was upset about this. Then I had to remember my triggers from the sensual celibacy book. Since french kissing is one of my triggers I thought that I should probably stay away from doing this. This occurred to me when old boy was like " I kiss you the way you want to be kissed". At first I was like that's not how I want to be kissed and was upset then I was like yep he is right. The 90 days isnt' really a big deal because I need at least 6 months to be considered celibate but this is half way! I will definitely continue doing what I am doing. Also another good tip was date as many people as you can handle. I unfortunately can only handle too because of school. I think that I am doing quite well as far as this is concerned. I am wondering well all of this will end up in the next year. We shall see.
Sunday, April 3, 2011
Hey people that was sad that I only posted once for March. I was moving so quickly last month that I did not get a chance to get ur done. I finished the book. It was interesting at the end of the book was basically about giving men the benefit of the dobut. I have been doing that and in the process have met several men. She also suggested that he you date as many men as you can handle. Now theoretically you would think that doing that would lead to more temptation but it does not. I think that is because you don't get too involved and therefore its less likely you have sex with anyone because you have to spend more time getting to know all of them. I am really enjoying this and oddly enough it seems as if I am getting more attention in general lol. At then end of the book you have the choice to end the celibacy contract with yourself. I am not going to end it until next year. Hopefully, I will remember to do it. Also, another thing I learned is it get's easier to be like nope I am not doing that and be at peace with the decision. We shall see.