Offically CELIBATE! Yay

Well I made it! Im officially considered celibate! I am definitely getting use to this lifestyle. I have more men than ever. Who Knew! well my mom knew. It's funny because she always tried to tell me not to have sex with these guys and I did it anyway. Mother's do know best please believe it. I might even consider waiting for marriage... I just see things in a better prespective. I definitely see through the bullshit more quickly than ever before and that gives me even a better reason to keep my celibacy lol. I don't think that sex is over rated but I do understand why its so special and why it should not be had by someone who wont appreciate you as a person. I understand why people wait until marriage a little more. I still am not sure I completely agree with it but that might be because I am not a virgin and somewhat bias in that regard. Neway I will continue this wonderful journey of self discovery and hopes that it will lead me to other realizations about not only dating but about men in general. We shall see. Stay tuned!

Almost halfway point!

Hey people I am almost to my half way point. I am extremely proud of myself. The most ironic thing about this celibacy thing is that I am dating about 6 guys right now lol unbeknowst to them! Yay me and I'm not having sex with any of them. I figured out that the more guys I date the better because I wont be sucked in to any of them to the point where I want to go to the next level. Now there are some contenders but I think I will be able to fend them off for the most part. We shall see. The guy I was dating at first disappeared and there are no hard feeling or bitterness because the relationship was just fun and dating. This is freaking awesome. So now I have a bet with two of my friends. I think I should let more people in so that I can make more money! LOL My male bestie asks me how I am dating so may guys and he is having problems juggling three women. I told him its that dayum double standard. He was like yeah you don't have to pay for anything because if you did the number would probably be last than half. I told him he had a good point. The thing that I have found overall is that men just need less which also makes it easier! ;-) I might update again at the half way point foreal...We shall see.

Learning Experiences

So, I've been gone for a minute but I'm back! Its been awhile. I have been still dating quite a bit of men. I have begin telling the new men that I meet that I am celibate until marriage.I don't know if I will tell all of them that. It is the experimental part. Hey what did you expect I'm a social scientist! However, it is refreshing that they take it well and some even stick around surprisingly enough. The first guy kinda faded away. I guess he thought I was joking that I was celibate. It had been about three months so I guess he figured out that I really was not joking but oh well. I am still dating others. I often wish I had listened to my mother earlier. I guess I just wanted to learn on my own and I definitely did. But mom's always right! This is my 4th month and I am very proud of myself! I Everyday I get more and more confident about keeping my celibacy oath to myself. I'm going to meet a new dude tonight. We shall see!

how long can I really last...?

So something interesting happened recently. My friend told me about his friend's girlfriend. He told me that this woman was 42 years old and still a virgin. I was stunned and yet at the same time strangely encouraged..?! I say this because out situations are not the same yet the outcome is similar. Knowing that someone like that was encouraging because she said no to temptation. I thought to myself, wouldn't be awesome if I could interview this woman for all of her tricks and how she avoided all of that temptation really is amazing to me. However, the bad thing is she is 42 and childless. (She wants children). So is being a virgin and waiting for the right one really the thing to do if this is the result? I know she can adopt but that not wants she wants. I am still doing quite well in my celibacy and half way to being truly celibate with 3 months to go. I am sure I can make it. I mean if someone is 42 and a virgin I can surely make it 90 days right. I somewhat do not even really have a choice because I have a crazy A&P class that is going to be hell on earth. I don't think I will be able to even spare any time to even have sex which is a good thing. We shall see.

Nice

Hello out there people. I am coming up on 90 days tomorrow Yay! It has been a hard journey. I am still seeing the same person. He still gives me pecks. At first I was upset about this. Then I had to remember my triggers from the sensual celibacy book. Since french kissing is one of my triggers I thought that I should probably stay away from doing this. This occurred to me when old boy was like " I kiss you the way you want to be kissed". At first I was like that's not how I want to be kissed and was upset then I was like yep he is right. The 90 days isnt' really a big deal because I need at least 6 months to be considered celibate but this is half way! I will definitely continue doing what I am doing. Also another good tip was date as many people as you can handle. I unfortunately can only handle too because of school. I think that I am doing quite well as far as this is concerned. I am wondering well all of this will end up in the next year. We shall see.

Finished

Hey people that was sad that I only posted once for March. I was moving so quickly last month that I did not get a chance to get ur done. I finished the book. It was interesting at the end of the book was basically about giving men the benefit of the dobut. I have been doing that and in the process have met several men. She also suggested that he you date as many men as you can handle. Now theoretically you would think that doing that would lead to more temptation but it does not. I think that is because you don't get too involved and therefore its less likely you have sex with anyone because you have to spend more time getting to know all of them. I am really enjoying this and oddly enough it seems as if I am getting more attention in general lol. At then end of the book you have the choice to end the celibacy contract with yourself. I am not going to end it until next year. Hopefully, I will remember to do it. Also, another thing I learned is it get's easier to be like nope I am not doing that and be at peace with the decision. We shall see.

Im focused man!

I am now on the chapter about giving men the benefit of the doubt. I met a man that said he was okay with my celibacy. He is about 9 years old then me. For some reason I was sprung. It was ridiculous. He started acting strangely and it was because he was with another woman. But I did not mind, I'm not going to give him any anyway and its been great just dating him. I am now in my second month. It feels great! I figured out too that I definitely need to be more focused on myself and I had lost sight of that when  I met this man. I did learn this though I was so nervous about telling him about my celibacy pledge and was surprised by his positive response. I think the next person I meet telling them will be a piece of cake! This is the easy part for me. We will see what happens after MAY this year because that will be the real test. We shall see!